Without the expectation of an orgasm, and the restriction of “we only have an hour” or “let’s make it quick as I want to sleep early tonight” — the possibility for reaching it, just from being more relaxed and less pressured, is increased. Especially if the other isn’t pushing for his own pleasure either, and the quality of sex is not defined by the number of notches.
Congrats on the curation. I love the points that you made in this article. Especially, this one which many people miss. There’s not really an end result although we like to think that there will be.. it’s the experience that makes it all the more pleasurable and special. Well done.