Having kids is a life altering experience. You are right, it should be a thoughtful decision that’s not made lightly. As a mom who made her choice to be a mom, I felt strongly for not wanting to miss out on motherhood. I have not regretted the decision even when it completely altered my dreams in life. That’s how sure people should be when they decide to have kids. The kids will always come first from this day forward, and you have to be okay with that. You will lose your dreams, you will lose your financial stability, you will lose the life you thought you might have. You have to be okay with that. So I give props for you to admit that you don’t want kids because you can’t give up that much. We should be more honest about that in our society today.