I find that it’s not always clear cut. I’m always struggling to activate my life. I stumble when there are days when I’m living in blame. But, eventually, it clears and I pull myself out. It’s the greatest mountain to climb. You are never quite on top.. so my continuous effort and failures are what I try to rely on each day. Perhaps, that’s just life.. but you are right.. when we are in trouble is when we don’t seem to make the effort anymore.. that’s when someone else needs to get involved to pull us out of it.