I’m actually blown away by your post. I feel like everything clicked: sociopathic behavior from abuser -> abuse (mental/physical)->gaslighting-> brain fog from cognitive dissonance -> depression.
This is the loop of insanity for an abused person. This explains exactly why even career women who are so sure of themselves get pulled into abusive relationships. This explains how someone climbs out of abuse, gain confidence and then fall back into abusive situations.
Thanks for this. I think you just offered mindfulness as a defense against the abuser which is amazingly powerful for every victim out there.