Life including family, career and marriage is a lot. I chose family, career over a marriage. I wonder if one day I will regret that. But, I think that at least you worked on and was successful in your writing career. You could’ve simply sat back and did nothing. But you didn’t. That is amazing to me. I understand the pressure of being in a paternalistic structure since I come from one. A lot of women simply sit back and become “bitter” from being an appendage.