…ing to be conditions for love, comfort, and happiness. Instead of this ideal of unconditional love, we can accept that our loved ones are not always lovable and develop a steadiness that holds them in a place where we don’t deny them who they are and what they must go through at given times in their lives.
Body Activation by Michele Kadison
Yes, life is nonlinear and happen in stages of growth. You are right that when dealing with people who we have no choice but love, yet they cross our boundaries, then distance, time and forgiveness is the way love shows up. That is unconditional, the bungee cord so to speak.. but it doesn’t mean that we love what they do…it doesn’t mean they can’t go through their personal process of recovery, finding out who they are and mending their actions if they want to do that.. loved this article in that like you said, there is no right way or wrong way to love, but boundaries is what safeguards live, that much is what you can stand in certainty on.